Monday, July 21, 2014

How to really win a woman's heart

1. One word: Charm
Every man has his own unique charm – let it show! Start off with a strong and confident introduction, but be comfortable – be yourself! Smile or laugh often, because at the end of the day, a woman just wants someone who can make her smile and laugh. No matter how handsome a man might be, he will not win a woman’s heart if he isn’t able to make her feel comfortable. So getting closer to a woman requires a certain comfort level and that will be hard to achieve if you aren’t feeling comfortable yourself.

2. Take her out and ask questions
Not every woman wants a fancy one, but a date is something no woman will reject if she is interested. Ask her out for a coffee, a lunch, a dinner, a drink. It doesn’t have to be anything extravagant, just a time for you two to get to know each other on a personal level.  

3. Be transparent with her
Once you’ve seen each other a couple times and you feel strongly towards this woman, you gotta let her know. Of course, this is the hardest part because you don’t want to come off too strong, but the message has to be delivered. Find the appropriate time to tell her that you find her to be amazing, attractive, fun to be around, whatever it may be. And if you can, tell her that you like her.

4. Show her that you trust her
It’s one thing to be fancied, but another thing to be trusted. It doesn’t matter whether or not she trusts you, but you should take the first step forward by showing her that you trust her. A good way to show this is by letting her in on a small secret or something rather personal, or leaving one of your belongings with her, or letting her wear something of yours until the next time you see each other. This can range from telling her a story not many people know, to letting her keep your favorite accessory for a week. This not only shows that you trust her with your stuff, but it’ll remind her of you every time she thinks about it, sees or wears it – leaving a deeper imprint and making her fall for you more and more.  

5. Show that you’re making an effort
Whether it’s going out of your way to help her out with something or making an explicit promise to her that you’ll try to be more punctual, effort is effort. Women appreciate even the littlest things that you try to arrange for them, and they will reciprocate your efforts. Building a relationship is all about compromise and giving, so once you initiate these gestures, she will not be able to resist from reciprocating back.

6. Show consistency
Sure, these steps are easy to carry out and play by the book. But the true way to really win a woman’s heart is to stay loyal and show that you will remain grounded by her side like a rock. A real woman who values herself will take her time getting to know you, so no matter how grand your efforts are, she will want to wait it out. Consistency is not something you should force, but it should happen naturally if you really like someone. If you find yourself being inconsistent in your actions, perhaps you should double check whether you really do want to “win” and be responsible for this woman’s heart… Because once you do, it will be the most precious and delicate thing for you to guard.